Perfect Fit

Ever wear an outfit that was complicated and uncomfortable? Something is either too tight or too loose and you keep adjusting it and fussing with it. You mutter under your breath furiously-- asking yourself why you chose it in the first place. It appeared far more charming on the hanger.

Such is my analogy of a bad relationship. The one you shouldn't be in. The one that doesn't fit. A little bit or a lot and it's layered with too many things. It pinches in places you wish it wouldn't.

Lackluster relationships are harrowing to endure. They can be love relationships or friendships---any relationship you feel you are enduring rather than feeling comfortable in. In all fairness, the adjectives "harrowing" and "lackluster" really imply a love ( or loveless) relationship or marriage. No one should honestly endure a crappy friendship--- it's that pilled sweater that no longer keeps you warm and itches. Give it away to charity. Some other soul will just love it.

Harrowing is sleeping in separate bedrooms after several years of marriage. Enduring is averting your eyes when your lover undress's because you have lost the thrill of their nakedness.... maybe that thrill was never there at all but you decided sometime ago that you needed "sensible shoes". Something comfortable that nobody could object to....not even yourself. Maybe you are the sensible shoes that another is enduring but doesn't truly want....and that....is harrowing.

That ugly sweater that no one understands why you bought in the first place...and yet you wear it every day.

It seems silly to compare life's fruitless relationships with clothing or shoes...but think about it. In the back of your closet is that silky maroon opera coat with the diamond and pearl studded broach that makes you feel like a million dollars when you're wearing it. You glow and you strut because it makes you feel that damned good. Even simpler that pair of jeans that cause you to feel light and sexy because they hug you so well.

Life is so much easier when you wear the things that fit.

Many of us need to make a clean sweep in our proverbial closets.

Make a pile of the ill fitting and the far too faded. The uncomfortable and the too tight. The things you never
wanted in the first place but that you keep around for reasons even you can no longer answer.

Put them in a box. Someone else will love them and they will likely fit that person perfectly.

Just not you.

You want a lifetime of silky maroon opera coats. Something that brings out the best you....causes you to glow.....always causing your heart to skip a beat.

So wonderful on it's own.....but alive when you're in it. Just right.

The perfect fit.


CJ Ellis